Sunday, June 7, 2015

Snow Mae Relitz Birth Story

Snow Mae Relitz: A Birth Story

          A few days before the Labor Day weekend I was having trouble sleeping through the night due to some seriously itchy skin. I thought it was strange because I had read about itching on the belly due to skin stretching, but I was itchy everywhere else. I was so itchy I would lie awake for hours at night with my skin just crawling. My legs, arms, hand and feet were all just so itchy. I was becoming really irritated and could not figure out what was wrong with me. Spencer suggested I call the DR's office and tell them what was going on and to find out what kind of medication I could take to help. I insisted it wasn't that big of a problem and refused to call. Upon examining my skin I had no rash, bites, or irritations, so I was confused. Eventually I gave in and figured at least I could find out if I could take Benadryl or something to help stop the itching.

          Once I called the DR they said I could take Benedryl and that they wanted me to come in for a blood test. I went in to have my blood drawn and did not think too much of it. Spencer asked me later if I was worried about the blood test and I said If there was a problem the Dr would call.

          Later, at about 5:00pm I got a call from the DR saying they took 2 blood samples for 2 tests; one test showed I had elevated liver enzymes and the other test would show if I had Cholestasis of Pregnancy. The Dr explained that blood test to confirm my diagnosis would take around 4-5 days and it was already after 5pm on a friday of a holiday weekend so the lab would be closed. She explained how serious Cholestasis can be for a baby and asked if Spencer and I could come into the Hospital Saturday morning so she could run another blood test to see if my liver enzymes rose. She said elevated liver enzymes are an indicator of Cholestasis. She said to bring our hospital bags with us because might be saying to have a baby!

          That night we felt a little panicked because our baby girl might be coming sooner than we had planned. WE cleaned the house, called our families and got our hospital bag ready to go.

          Saturday morning we went into the hospital and had my blood tested again. I received an ultrasound to check on baby and They hooked me up to a fetal monitor to make sure everything was looking good. The baby had a strong heart beat and plenty of amniotic fluid, so the only worry was my Cholestasis. The Dr told us she could not 100% confirm a diagnosis but she was pretty confident I had Cholestasis and that delivering the baby early would be the best thing. We discussed it and decided any chance of harm on the baby was just too much of a risk to take so we were admitted for an induction!

          Saturday night the Dr gave me a medication called Cervidel which was inserted inside and would help my cervix to dilate. This medication however made the heart rate of baby too fast so she had to remove the medication. Then I was given an oral pill called Cidoteq which essentially did the same thing. This pill was causing me to have serious contractions which were too close together. The Dr said my body was too sensitive to these types of medications and she would start me on Pitocin( a drug that induces labor) in the morning. I had to be given some pain medication to help me sleep because the contractions were quite painful.

          The next day(Sunday) the hospital was very busy with women having babies the Dr did not get my Pitocin started until later in the afternoon. The medicine was making me contract, but I was only dilated to a 2! I was on Pitocin until about 11:00Pm when the Dr decided to give my body a rest and start again in the morning. She gave me the option to continue the Pitocin all through the night but I did not want to go into Labor in the middle of the night.

          Monday morning the Dr came in early like she had promised, 8:30Am, and got the Pitocin started again and inserted a balloon device to help my body dilate. The Pitocin was making my contractions come pretty hard and fast. By about 3:00PM I was in tears and barely able to speak through my contractions. I begged my nurse for my epidural and she gave in even though I was only dilated to a 3. The anesthesiologist came and I instantly felt 1million times better. I was able to take a little nap. However, after a few hours the pain started to come back really quickly. I was a having a lot of back labor. We had to call the Anesthesiologist back to the hospital to give me some more medication. He had to come back 2 times to give me more medicine because it kept wearing off.

          Finally at around 2:00AM I told the nurse I felt like I wanted to push. The contractions were almost unbearable. The only thing that helped with the pain was to push. I was exhausted from the pains of labor and now the DR was telling me I had to be the strongest now and give it my all. I had thrown up multiple times that day and just had no more energy. The DR told me her head was close to coming out and at that moment I gave up! I told the DR it was too hard for me and I couldn't do it anymore. I begged her to just cut me open. She looked at me and told me I was a strong woman and although it was hard I would be able to see my little girl very soon. She was amazing! I had my Husband on one side of me and my best friend Heidi on the other through this whole process! The room felt like a million degrees and the exhaustion is almost indescribable. Finally at 6:10am she was born! The pain was instantly gone and I was overcome with JOY, I am a MOM! Spencer was beaming and then he asked me what we should call her. I said she didn't look like an Elizabeth ( the name we were highly considering) and I just knew, Snow Mae, It was perfect!


Sunday, August 26, 2012

Inspiration to be better

     Spencer and I like to have the missionaries over for dinner a lot. It's really fun and Spencer gets to reflect on his mission, which he LOVES! WE also end up talking about the ward and the different callings a what not. I recently got a new calling as the Second Counselor in the Primary Presidency.  This new calling/ and change has inspired me to try and be the best Primary counselor I can be. ( Not that I was going to do a bad job, but the new calling is going to be a challenge. It is also nice when you seat fresh in a calling).

     This calling also came a great time because if you know much about what is going on in my life right now, I am going to need more stuff to keep me busy, and this will do just that. :) I am excited to get to know people at church better then I have been, and just magnify my calling.

     I am working with a great President and 1st Counselor, I know they will lift me up and help me.
With this new challenge ( which will include the ward Halloween party!!! eeek).

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

pros and cons

Things I love about where I live
- the trees! It's basically a forrest
- all of the local produce
- the Hudson River
-the beautiful scenery 
- living by historical places
- fireflies
- the Culinary School
- NYC being so close
- exploring new cities
- great food

Things I don't like about where I live
- not knowing anyone : /
- family being so far away
- having a small ward
- the 2 lane roads
- the crazy NY drivers
- that it takes at least 25 min to go anywhere
-not making as much $ as I used to
- living in an ancient tiny apt
- the fact that my husband will be gone at the end of the summer

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Washington for the weekend

     Spencer and I recently went to Washington State for the weekend for his brothers wedding. It was a whirlwind trip. WE flew from JFK to Seattle and then to a small town called Walla Walla Washington. Justin got married on Saturday and the reception later that evening at a local restaurant. It was really nice to be with family again. When we arrived at the wedding Spencer's parents began to cry. It was really nice begin able to be there for Justin on his big day. I know how important it was that we were there and I am so happy we were.

     While being there I couldn't help but think of my wedding day! It really doesn't feel that long ago but the truth is it has been 2 1/2 years! That really was the happiest day of my life. One thing we both had at our wedding was a guest sign in book filled with engagement photos. I guess this si the new thing to do and i agree it is a lot better then a book just filled with names or writing. But this is so special to be because in my guest book my little brother, who is no longer with us, wrote something very special to me. I can't remember it word for word and I don't feel like looking at it any crying right now but he said something like, " Ashley I will look back on this day with pride. I love you. Your little bro Alan $pjute"
As you can imagine this entry is the most special to me at this time. So i made sure that Spencer and I both wrote in that guest book because you never know what might happen, and its never a bad time to tell someone you love them, especially in writing. Those things will last forever.

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Living the Dream

At least once a week I have a moment where I think, "I can't believe I live in NY!"
 It's crazy to me to think Spencer and I are HERE and he is in culinary school. I can hardly believe we drove the whole way here. It was a crazy long trip of 6 days of driving. And NO I would not recommend an across country trip. It wasn't too fun, but we made it.
Somehow we managed to meet nice enough people to help us get our two feet on the ground until we found our own place. And all of this started with a though, just a thought.

"hey Spencer maybe you should look into culinary school, you seem to be interested.."
and Bam I've been in NY for 4 months!

I was talking to my dad and he teaches at a college and he said on the first day of class he talked about Spencer and me, mostly Spencer. He hold me he told his class that his son-in-law is living his dream and making it come true. He told them he found a career that he LOVES and makes him happy and he is pursuing it!

I really believe you can be anything you want to be if you want it bad enough and you try hard. Spencer has already finished his first chunk of classes and he got good grades and next week it will be the second career fair since he started. He will be looking at potential extern sites for his 4 month extern, and I could not be more proud of him.

If you have a dream, you can make it happen, just don't be afraid to take the first step. Having a spouse with you helps a lot  :)

Just a thought. <3

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Birthday Bash!

I had a wonderful birthday! Spencer took me to NYC for the day and I had a blast. Here a ton of pictures of our adventures

This is the entrance to the central park zoo. * we actually didn't go in just walked to the entrance.

There are tons of these yellow bushes in NY! So pretty.

Central Park

The dry fountain in central park

The Museum of Natural history

Yes these are real dinosaur bones! 

This is the highest frog I've ever seen! I hate frogs

Mr T.... T Rex

Toy Shop in Times Square

Yes I am Spider Man

I made Spencer take this picture because when I first came to NY with my family Karen and I took a picture in here. :)

the apple store inside Grand Central

I was playing a

A shoot of the central park zoo. It looks just like the movie Madagascar 

inside Mast brothers chocolate. This is where they make chocolate bars straight from the bean in Brooklyn 

cocoa nibs

a cocoa pod

He was so excited

Just taking pictures on broadway, we didn't see one yet

Times square

Birthday Cake with Friends

Ughh trick candles..

Well I hope these pictures show what a great time I had.
Plus the week after my birthday my parents came and bought me tons of house stuff for my birthday! BUt that is for another post. 

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Dear __* Letters

Dear ____*

* Body- please stop being so sore. I would like to move again

* Kitchen- I wish you would do the dishes all by yourself

*Money- stop causing me such headaches

* CA- how I miss you :(

* NY- Thank you for having such a mild winter with almost NO snow, but please be sensitive this summer as well. Not too hot and humid ok?

*Neighbors- please don't be upset if I am jumping in the morning, Im trying to exercise

* Spencer- I am so proud of how hard you are working in school. Keep up the good work. You are an amazing husband and my absolute Best Friend

*Alan- I think about you all the time and miss you so much. I hope you are well. You can visit me in my dreams any time. I enjoyed that :)